Be gentle with yourself. If you will not be your own unconditional friend, who will be? If you are playing an opponent and you are also opposing yourself – you are going to be outnumbered.
– Dan Millman
I love this quote about being gentle with ourselves – being our own unconditional friend.
Most of us are not aware of our inner relationship. Often our self-talk is negative, hurtful and unsupportive. We would never talk to a close friend this way, yet it flows with ease when we direct it at us. Why is that? If our environment is also negative and unsupportive, what happens to us at a deep level with all this negativity? I believe we hold this negativity within us and it festers away causing even more internal damage including health problems.
You may wonder Why this so important, especially if you believe you are only hurting yourself…and/or sadly you think you don’t deserve anything better. When we hurt ourselves, not only do we dwell in the purgatory of self defeat, we also rob others of the very best of us. Those who depend on us, work with us or live with us get short changed. How much patience, understanding, love and companionship do we really have to offer when we are not blessing ourselves by being gentle, loving and supportive inwardly?
Maybe this makes sense to you. You know you need to improve your inner relationship and you are wondering how to do do it – where to start…
Begin by creating a vision of how you want to “be” with yourself, and spend time answering these questions.
What would it look like, how would you talk to yourself, especially when you didn’t meet your own expectations? How would you support yourself?
What would your life like if you were gentle with yourself, and your own unconditional friend?
How would you feel, think and be with yourself?
Spending time on creating a strong inner foundation will help you in all areas of your life. Won’t you begin this vital work now?
Many blessings, hope and love to you,
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