STRATEGIES FOR MINDFUL LIVING
HOW TO CREATE WORK-LIFE BALANCE
As she recovered from her heart attack, Anna had a lot of time to think. Staring at the stark, a sterile hospital wall was a wake-up call. “I almost died” she realized with panic. A sense of despair came over Anna as she saw that her unhealthy life was to blame.
Her mom’s condemning words replayed over and again in her head like a broken record. “Why are you so lazy? Why can’t take care of yourself properly? You know better than that!” Anna’s mother still had the power to make her feel horrible, even though it had been a year since her passing. Truthfully, Anna was mad at herself for letting it get this far. And yes, she did know better.
Anna thought about the dysfunctional office where she worked. There was so much pressure. If you weren’t stressed, overwhelmed, and overburdened, often working through breaks and after hours, then you were not doing your job. That was the unhealthy office culture she faced every day.
Also adding to her stress levels was the fact that women had to work harder to be successful in this male dominated agency. For the first time in her life, Anna realized what she’d been tolerating and it made her angry! She was through with sacrificing her health and well being for success!
There was no question about it, Anna’s life had spun out of control. Her job totally consumed her, robbing her of time she could use to improve her health and well-being. She was stressed and exhausted all the time, and too fatigued to do anything else. Even if she did want to exercise, have fun, be more active and meet people, she simply didn’t have the time or energy.
Desperate and afraid, Anna didn’t want to waste this second chance, but she saw no solution to her problems. Her life consisted of working, eating and sleeping. But now, she needed and wanted more.
Anna knew she was at a crossroads in her life, but that well-beaten path of work, stress, and self-neglect was familiar and easy. Choosing the new path meant discomfort, dedication, and commitment, and frankly, she didn’t know if she could do it.
New Actions & Appreciations
Frustrated and angry, Anna looked for answers. She read books, scoured the Internet, and finally hired a hypno-coach.
As she poured out her feelings, the coach listened, and then directed Anna’s attention inward. When she looked deeply at her true wants and needs, it became clear – Anna wanted to create balance in her work and personal life. But she wanted it to be easy, and to fit in her busy life.
With the coach’s help, Anna realized she already had everything she needed inside to make positive changes. Excited and empowered, Anna began making new, healthy choices.
Though challenging, she talked to her boss about her goals. She started leaving work at a reasonable time and she avoided bringing work home unless essential.
Anna made the commitment to support herself, no matter how exhausted she felt. She started weighing decisions on a scale of whether they supported her goal of creating a balanced life or not.
She started a gratitude journal, each night adding to her list of things that made her grateful. And she asked herself questions like “What will I do to support myself today?”
She searched in her community, on the Internet and local colleges for fun activities, and enrolled in a painting class.
Self Esteem – Self Love
As a successful leader, Anna received numerous awards and praises for her accomplishments. Deep down though, she didn’t believe, trust or accept them. And she realized that the admiration, compliments, and recognition of others had little impact on her self-esteem and-self worth. When it came right down to it, Anna knew that it was her opinion of herself that really mattered most.
She knew she didn’t love herself – in fact she felt the opposite most of the time. Growing up, Anna was criticized, called names, bullied, and ridiculed. She loathed the way she looked and couldn’t see why anyone, including herself, could possibly love her.
Anna would often catch herself looking in the mirror and repeating unkind phrases like, “You are so fat and ugly,” and “Why are you so stupid?” It was as if her mother’s critical voice was a permanent fixture in her head. Anna didn’t know how she could possibly change these feelings. But she was willing to learn and open to try.
So at her coach’s suggestion, Anna began recognizing and acknowledging things she appreciated about herself and writing them down in her gratitude journal. One night she wrote, “I appreciate how much I care about helping those less fortunate.” When she wrote this she felt very emotional and got teary eyed. Finding positive things to write each day helped Anna begin to see and value herself in a whole new way.
As she channeled her focus in new areas, Anna became more aware and grateful for things she previously took for granted. She also began feeling more compassion for herself, which was a totally new perspective. She felt better about her life than ever before.
Mindfulness Strategies for Work-Life Balance
To help her feel more empowered, the hypno-coach led Anna through a powerful personal inquiry strategy to deepen her learning and increase her self-awareness.
Answering the following questions helped Anna begin to look inside for answers. She discovered what wasn’t working, and how it affected her life. This included the negative attitudes she had about herself.
The questions helped Anna think outside the box and discover she had choices. Knowing she had options was empowering to Anna. Feeling freer, more aware, and with a purpose to support herself, Anna created a solution, a goal and an action plan that she felt excited to implement.
The hypno-coach also taught Anna a breathing technique to instill her with inner calm in any situation, especially when experiencing work stress.
The hypno-coach gave Anna a Guided Meditation Recording, “Mindfulness, A Life in Balance” and encouraged her to listen daily. The prompts in the meditation would help Anna feel more centered and grounded, helping her create a balanced life.
You can follow along with Anna and also begin living a mindful and balanced life by participating in these activities. Grab a pen and paper and let’s begin.
Write down your answers to the following questions
- What issue or challenge is not supporting your work-life balance? Give it a rating from 1-10 with 1 having no negative effect, and 10 being completely intolerable.
- Describe the current situation.
- How does it feel?
- What affect does it have on your life?
- What personal meaning (about you) are you choosing to give this? (For example, do you believe you can never have fun, be healthy, make friends, lose weight, etc?)
- Is that really true?
- If you could do anything without repercussions, what would you do about your current situation?
- What could you do instead of that? What else?
- What is an option you can live with and feel good about?
- How will implementing this support you?
- What support do you need?
- What will you do and when will you begin?
Slowly inhale through the nostrils to a count of 4, expanding the lower then upper lungs by filling the abdomen and chest. Hold the breath for 4 seconds, and then exhale through the mouth to a count of 8. Repeat this pattern 6 to 8 times. This technique naturally levels the emotions, calms the mind and body, and sends your awareness inward, while alleviating stress.
- Keep a gratitude journal. Write daily, either before bed or in the morning before your day.
- Listen to the guided meditation recording daily.
Unlike so many people who are teetering on the edge of a health crisis, Anna is choosing to make positive changes in her life. It’s unfortunate that for so many of us, it takes a personal crisis to be a catalyst for choosing a healthy way of life.
My hope is that we all become proactive when it comes to mindful living. As we become more aware and support ourselves from the inside out, we can create memorable, enjoyable and meaningful moments while we share our lives together here on earth.
I hope you are enjoying following Anna’s journey toward mindful living. You too can begin using these strategies today, supporting yourself in your path to a healthier and mindful way of life.
Stay tuned for more strategies, tips, tools, and techniques to help you on your journey.
Hypno-Coaching is a viable, alternative treatment modality with a proven track record of success in many areas. It is drug-free, calming, and enjoyable with no side affects. It can be the best choice in helping you or someone you know overcome problems, gain confidence, and perform better.
If you need more help or have questions, give me a call.
Patricia Eslava Vessey
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Wishing you overflowing success!
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