If you suffer from low self-confidence, you might be stuck in some negative mindsets that are affecting the way you think about yourself and, ultimately, your self-esteem. Negative mindsets tend to have a lot of “always” or “never” talk, creating a sense of entrapment and hopelessness. Here are some examples of negative mindsets that can lead to low confidence.
“I will never get it right.”
Thinking this way can keep you from trying again, or even trying something for the first time. This kind of comment about yourself makes it only too easy to give up.
“Nobody understands what this is like.”
When you lack self-confidence, you might be assuming that everyone else has it together and you’re the odd man or woman out. You may feel lonely, isolated, and feel as if others have their lives together while you are still floundering.
“I am totally useless.”
When you lack confidence, you may feel like you don’t have anything of value to contribute, whether it’s to your workplace, relationships, or something else.
“I am a complete failure.”
No one fails at every single thing; but to a person with low self-confidence, it can sure seem that way. You may feel like everything you’ve ever tried has failed, even if this is not true.
“I could never do that.”
Do you see someone with a successful lifestyle you wish you had? If you lack self-confidence, you may have the above reaction. Instead of being inspired and wanting to create that lifestyle for yourself, you look at that person and get depressed, thinking you could never have what they have.
How Can These Mindsets Be Changed?
In order to overcome these limiting, negative and destructive mindsets that lead to low confidence, it’s necessary to reprogram your thought processes. You will need to pay attention to your negative self-talk and immediately change it to something positive.
For example, instead of “I will never get it right,” you could stop that thought in its tracks by saying CANCEL-CLEAR, and instead say,
“I have had trouble with this in the past, but I’m going to keep trying, ask for help if needed and I know I will succeed.”
Rather than, “I could never do that,” think, “I would love to do that! And I’m going to create that lifestyle because I know I can do it!
In place of, “I’m a complete failure,” tell yourself, “I have many great qualities and abilities and I’m getting better every day,” AND, “I have value and worth,” “I’m a valuable and worthwhile person.”
Try these tips to improve your mindset, and watch your life change in positive ways. Remember, consistency is key in changing any behavior. Stick with it even if you forget some of the time. Because the more you practice stopping this negative self-talk the better you will get at it. Those positive statements will gradually replace the old unhelpful ones and you will be creating a pathway toward confidence.
However, if you continue to struggle with low self confidence, you may need to see a professional for additional help. Hypnotherapy and Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is one of the easiest, fastest and most effective ways to change behavior permanently
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